Encouraging the silent bystander

How will you personally respond next time you hear a stereotypical joke?

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How to encourage the silent bystander
In a powerful and compelling way, this 9-minute video motivates bystanders to use their voice to speak up for respect on behalf of someone else.

OUCH! Your Silence Hurts Learning Objectives:

  • Understand the high cost of silent collusion.
  • Explore the power of the bystander to make a difference.
  • Inspire passive bystanders to use their voice as active allies.

The Ouch! Your Silence Hurts training package includes:

1. One DVD with the 9 min.video plus Skill-builder stories from the video, DVD Extras, a trailer.

The Ouch! DVD includes English Subtitles for the Hard of Hearing (SDH), and subtitles in Spanish, French, French-Canadian, German and Dutch.

2. One CD-ROM with Leader's Guide, Handouts, Mini-Poster, and Powerpoint.

Ouch! is an off-the-shelf training program designed to assist you in leading a successful training session. You can use it with the first OUCH! video, or as a standalone program.

Do you ever stand by silently when you feel you should speak up? If so, your silence hurts.

Many people say they want to speak up when they see others stereotyped, disrespected, or demeaned. But they stand by silently because of discomfort or the fear of saying the wrong thing. They may turn away thinking “who am I to get involved, this isn't my business.”

In fact, as a bystander, you ARE part of the conversation. You are the audience. Your silence allows the disrespectful behavior to continue. Your silence hurts.

Ouch! Your Silence Hurts....

challenges viewers by asking, "How will you personally respond next time you witness somebody being treated with disrespect?"

In the Ouch! video, you'll hear about the role of the silent bystander....

When you hear a disrespectful comment or joke, you have a choice:

Reinforce it by laughing or joining in.
Tolerate it by saying nothing, which is what most people do. Or speak up and become an ally, the hardest thing of all.

You may think that by saying nothing you’re making things better, or at least not making things worse. But sometimes silence is not golden. Your silence sends a message that you agree, or at the least you don’t object. Is that the message you want to send?

When we speak, we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.

Audre Lorde
Poet and Activist

Silence remains, inescapably, a form of speech.

Susan Sontag